I Blogged In Your Zone, Do You Validate?

30 06 2010

Blogging Zone

 

 Crush Crew Commentary 

 Did you know there were 3 steps to blogging? 

 Step 1 

To Write 

 The decision to create a blog is not and easy one.  Since most blogs are about everyday events in the life of the writer, the idea of putting your private thoughts out there and can be scary.  Bloggers take a chance on the “real people” in their lives finding out their inner most secrets.  The blog tells all and spares no one.  

 The true blogger is constantly thinking about that next post.  To the true blogger, posting is not just some nilly willy, combination of words and phrases you throw on a page.  But it is truly art.   An expression of yourself and  extension of the conversation you would have with the world if given a giant mic.  Yes there are days when you just put something together to let your followers know that you are still alive, but for the most part, it takes some serious thought.  

 To write is to breathe.  To release, to distress, to blog.  Blogging has become a great necessity. A part of your everyday life.  A must on your to do list. 

 Part 2 

To read 

As bloggers we are connected to a special community.  A community of like-minded people who have decided to put their world on display.  And although there are hundreds of thousands of bloggers out there that makes us unique.  We are bold, daring, inspirational, blunt, brilliant and sometimes foolish.  So we want to see who else is out there. 

 We read the blogs of others to get inspiration for our own.  To get encouragement that writing about one’s life is not a self-centered, egotistical thing to do but a much-needed dose of medicine that society desperately needs.  Proven by the fact that there actually other people doing the same thing.  We read to bring excitement to our own somewhat mundane lives.  We read so that we can say, Hey someone else is worse off or in the same boat as I am.  We read because if its something we should have thought of , are surprised by, or are passionate about, we get to put our 2 cents in, without writing a whole blog about it.   And we read for validation.  For ourselves and to each other. 

 Part 3 

To validate 

 Lets face the truth here.  We all want validation for anything we do in life.  Blogging is no different.  Well there is one difference, we crave it.  Desperately.  We check our stats, constantly, and smile big when we see them go up.  We get all giddy when our inbox says “comment reply”.  And if we get a “please moderate” we leap for joy, because this means a new reader. 

 As bloggers, we love to write, but nothing brings us greater joy than to be READ.  It means our voice is being heard. 

 How do we validate each other, by leaving comments.  Comments is a way of saying I hear you, I don’t have to agree with you, but I hear you. 

 Have you ever had a conversation with someone, only to have them not respond to you or give you a blank stare…. You just know they are not listening and you feel like you are wasting time trying to talk to them.  There is no conversation it is a lecture, only no one is listening. 

 Leaving a comment on someone’s blog is one of the most important things you can do for a blogger.  (outside of making the fressly pressed page of course 🙂 )Comments is a way of saying I hear you, I don’t have to agree with you, but I hear you. 

 Comments allow us to have a conversation with our readers, even if just for a moment.  

 Think about this, when you call someone and get their voice mail, you leave a message.  Why because you want them to know you called.  Or when you go to the doctor, don’t you tell them you are there.  Even better, would you go to someone’s home, use their bathroom, eat their food, watch a movie with them and leave without even saying “HELLO”… no because that would be rude.  You don’t go to a restaurant and eat and leave without paying the bill, but more importantly leaving a tip, because the tip is a validation of good food and service.  

 As a blogger, I am happy to see my stats reach into the thousands….but I am even more happy when I know who those readers are and what they thought of what I wrote. 

The Golden Rule…. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you… 

 So the next time you read someone’s blog, whether it’s about the world cup, body image, Obama, BP oil spill or their beautiful little girl,  take a moment to validate them.  Take a moment to leave a comment, to let them know you were there.  Isn’t that what you want for your blog. 

 And while I enjoy all the personal emails, after all that is why I make sure my email address is in every post 🙂 leave me a comment in the comment box, not email…or at least leave the comment first, then email me.  Don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate all the great friends I have made and speak to via email…but you guys email me such great comments, I’d like to share them with all my readers. 

 And remember the ultimate validation is reposting someone’s great post on you blog.  So feel free to repost this one 🙂 

 Thank you all for taking the time to read my blog…and giving me the validation I needed to continue blogging….and I thank you in advance for the comments you will leave. 

 Crushing on you, 

 Hope

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41 responses

30 06 2010
Eva Gallant

Excellent post. Very true. I just stopped by from SITS to say hi; hope you will find time to do the same!

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

i will stop by your place…. if you are not home i will leave amessage….lol….
thanks again for the validation…

30 06 2010
spamwarrior

So true! And it’s strange, I think I’m blogging just for the fun of it, but then when I see my stats go down, I get all droopy. Validation is so important.

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

i know…its nothing like high stats to get you high….lol

30 06 2010
ram0singhal

divine……..

thank you ……. many times ordinary writing carry lot of wisdom and you write with wisdom…bless you…

30 06 2010
redriverpak

Great post Hope! You hit the heart of blogging perfectly! Without my blogs, I would have no outlet for my Idiot thoughts… So, needless to say, my wife thinks that blogging is the greatest thing since sliced bread! Have a great day!

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

yes… i too speak idiot fluently….and sliced bread is not all its cracked up to be…now stuff crust pizza…that’s amazing…
thanks for the validation

30 06 2010
feastonthecheap

Ha, laughed out loud at “Part 3.” So true…. Comments are the icing on a big fat ego cake.

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

yes… and i know a got a big BIG fat ego….
thank you for stroking it….my ego that is…lol

30 06 2010
mct88

Written perfectly. The analogy given was good too!
So, here I am validating and the reason I haven’t validated previous posts is because I haven’t read them, yet 🙂

30 06 2010
Holley

Love this! Great points!

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

thank you…

30 06 2010
metaphase

Just stumbled here from another blog. So true about the comments. My husband would go leave comments for others just so HE would get more visitors/comments. We call that “pimpin’ my blog” or “blog pimpin'”. Sad and yet sometimes true!

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

i must admit…i too am guilty of pimpin my blob…gotta get those stats…blog gotta bring home the money…lol
ope

30 06 2010
kidfriendlyja

I validate you 🙂
and agree with you 100%
This post is right on point… I am always so sad to see my 0 comments glaring at me and I am giddy to see a comment or two or six like I got today 🙂

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

Yes…isn’t that what we all need in life… a little validation….some encouragement every now and then…
thank you…. i receive your validation and give you one back… 🙂

30 06 2010
Marliz3e

Hey Hope!
Very well written post. But what about Gorgeous???? =]
Sorry I’m a sucker for romance, and even more so, secter crushes!!
Here’s my validation to you, I enjoy your blog every time. And I will continue reading it. I am so happy for you that your blog is reaching its THOUSANDS!!!

=]
M

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

i am still crushing on him…. in fact i am planning to ask him out….Pray for me…lol….
i will blog about it…
thanks for the validation..
Hope

30 06 2010
Marliz3e

GOOOOOOOOD LUCK!!
Oh I do hope it works out!!!

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

me too…. i will let you know….

30 06 2010
barrymanana

Crush ‘n’ blush and ask him out!
Give his gyroscope a kick, and he’ll say ‘yes’ while he’s still wobbling!

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

lol…i am planning to…

30 06 2010
Peter Parkour

Howdy Hope,

Just popped in to take a look around and to validate your post. Everybody needs a little ego massage from time to time. 😉

Very well thought out. I hear you, I don’t have to agree with you, but I hear you. Oh, and I do agree. All great points.

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

thanks for popping in…nothing beats a good massage….well there are some things better…but lets keep it pg rated…lol

30 06 2010
Chelsea

Sheesh! Numbers in the thousands? I can’t even imagine. Great post, however. Everyone likes a little bit of comment love. 🙂

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

imagine it… it can happen….and yes comment love is always good…

30 06 2010
Jerry Jacques

Great post! I feel that way about blogging, but I’ve not put it into words yet.

30 06 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

i know…its been on my heart to say for a while….

1 07 2010
Tara

This hits particularly close to home for me! I love to read, and I try to comment wherever possible. And I LOVE it when others do the same for me! SO thank you!!

1 07 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

thank you for being so gracious enough to validate those you read….including me….
Hope

1 07 2010
onepillawayfromchaos

Thank you for such a wonderful reminder. These blogging steps could also be referred to as common courtesy. In other words, let’s all just be nice to each other. This is so easily forgotten when looking at a monitor instead of a real face. 🙂

1 07 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

you are so right… in this age of technology…people have lost their common courtesy and sometimes common sense…

1 07 2010
funwithmoms

Great post! Been reading stuff all morning trying to figure out how to get my blog out there..Thank You

1 07 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

that’s how you do it… i will check out your page…

2 07 2010
Broot

Totally agree!! Thanks for visiting me today! I’m off to have a look around. 🙂

2 07 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

thank YOU… enjoy your visit…

6 07 2010
Grammy

This was an excellent post. I crave validation. Thank you for visiting my blog last week and for your COMMENT! 🙂

6 07 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

yes i have had that craving once, twice or a thousand times myself….lol

9 07 2010
karamelbella

Nice post…

17 09 2010
hopelesslycrushingonyou

thank you

28 11 2010
Rev. Col

I just blog for the fun it now. That and to keep my family updated when they can’t contact me in other ways. I used to have several public blogs and I never got responses, so I gave up on that (I had them for years). Now I just don’t allow comments and now only seeing the stats is enough for me (since I only saw stats before anyways).

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