Crush Crew Commentary
Did you know there were 3 steps to blogging?
The decision to create a blog is not and easy one. Since most blogs are about everyday events in the life of the writer, the idea of putting your private thoughts out there and can be scary. Bloggers take a chance on the “real people” in their lives finding out their inner most secrets. The blog tells all and spares no one.
The true blogger is constantly thinking about that next post. To the true blogger, posting is not just some nilly willy, combination of words and phrases you throw on a page. But it is truly art. An expression of yourself and extension of the conversation you would have with the world if given a giant mic. Yes there are days when you just put something together to let your followers know that you are still alive, but for the most part, it takes some serious thought.
To write is to breathe. To release, to distress, to blog. Blogging has become a great necessity. A part of your everyday life. A must on your to do list.
As bloggers we are connected to a special community. A community of like-minded people who have decided to put their world on display. And although there are hundreds of thousands of bloggers out there that makes us unique. We are bold, daring, inspirational, blunt, brilliant and sometimes foolish. So we want to see who else is out there.
We read the blogs of others to get inspiration for our own. To get encouragement that writing about one’s life is not a self-centered, egotistical thing to do but a much-needed dose of medicine that society desperately needs. Proven by the fact that there actually other people doing the same thing. We read to bring excitement to our own somewhat mundane lives. We read so that we can say, Hey someone else is worse off or in the same boat as I am. We read because if its something we should have thought of , are surprised by, or are passionate about, we get to put our 2 cents in, without writing a whole blog about it. And we read for validation. For ourselves and to each other.
Lets face the truth here. We all want validation for anything we do in life. Blogging is no different. Well there is one difference, we crave it. Desperately. We check our stats, constantly, and smile big when we see them go up. We get all giddy when our inbox says “comment reply”. And if we get a “please moderate” we leap for joy, because this means a new reader.
As bloggers, we love to write, but nothing brings us greater joy than to be READ. It means our voice is being heard.
How do we validate each other, by leaving comments. Comments is a way of saying I hear you, I don’t have to agree with you, but I hear you.
Have you ever had a conversation with someone, only to have them not respond to you or give you a blank stare…. You just know they are not listening and you feel like you are wasting time trying to talk to them. There is no conversation it is a lecture, only no one is listening.
Leaving a comment on someone’s blog is one of the most important things you can do for a blogger. (outside of making the fressly pressed page of course 🙂 )Comments is a way of saying I hear you, I don’t have to agree with you, but I hear you.
Comments allow us to have a conversation with our readers, even if just for a moment.
Think about this, when you call someone and get their voice mail, you leave a message. Why because you want them to know you called. Or when you go to the doctor, don’t you tell them you are there. Even better, would you go to someone’s home, use their bathroom, eat their food, watch a movie with them and leave without even saying “HELLO”… no because that would be rude. You don’t go to a restaurant and eat and leave without paying the bill, but more importantly leaving a tip, because the tip is a validation of good food and service.
As a blogger, I am happy to see my stats reach into the thousands….but I am even more happy when I know who those readers are and what they thought of what I wrote.
The Golden Rule…. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you…
So the next time you read someone’s blog, whether it’s about the world cup, body image, Obama, BP oil spill or their beautiful little girl, take a moment to validate them. Take a moment to leave a comment, to let them know you were there. Isn’t that what you want for your blog.
And while I enjoy all the personal emails, after all that is why I make sure my email address is in every post 🙂 leave me a comment in the comment box, not email…or at least leave the comment first, then email me. Don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate all the great friends I have made and speak to via email…but you guys email me such great comments, I’d like to share them with all my readers.
And remember the ultimate validation is reposting someone’s great post on you blog. So feel free to repost this one 🙂
Thank you all for taking the time to read my blog…and giving me the validation I needed to continue blogging….and I thank you in advance for the comments you will leave.
Crushing on you,